I feel that a lot of problems in our society stem from externalizing blame rather than taking it on internally. I’m not about to get on my high horse here and start pointing fingers at other people, I’ve spent more time than I’d like to admit blaming others for problems I created, but I do see a worrying trend of people looking for something to blame rather than taking a long hard look at themselves. I think I know the reason why, at least for myself.
Internalizing blame is a mentally exhausting activity, especially when you have an easy reason to blame others. Indeed I spent far too much of my University project year blaming others for my failings, not recognizing that I should have just manned the fuck up and fixed my shit. It took me a good couple years to come to terms with the fact that in all the interactions where failure was identified it was just as easy to ascribe the fault with myself as it was with anyone else. Actually doing so at the time was an impossibility, thanks to my over-inflated ego that was still recovering from its teenage know-it-all years.
That video hits the nail on the head. Many people ascribe the blame for failed relationships to the person on the other side. It’s easy to understand why as well, that person has hurt you in some way and now that they’re not part of your life putting the fault on them makes it easier to deal with. Taking a step back and looking at yourself however, whilst immensely difficult, can be quite revealing. This isn’t to say that the other side is always blameless, but a relationship is always a 2 way street.
Since realizing this my life has become inexorably more complicated, seeing me getting stuck in analytical cycles constantly, but I do feel a lot more comfortable in accepting and dealing out blame where its appropriate. Sure I’m not immune to externalizing blame entirely but I do feel I’m getting better, enough so that a repeat of the University incident should hopefully never happen again.
Time after time I’ve been regaled with stories of greedy executives and their board members taking away lucrative packages whilst their companies flail in the wind. Whilst I admit that there are some particularly nasty individuals who have rode companies cheerfully into the ground whilst making themselves personally rich, there are quite a few executive staff out there who cop flack just because their position comes with what appears to be a large pay check. When in reality, their success is so deeply tied to the company’s profitability that if the company were to fail, they’d be as bankrupt as their workers.
Yet again I’m looking at the media for mis-representing the situation in order to create headlines to sell papers (funny little circle of corporate greed here). Let’s have a look at some companies and what their CEO’s are taking home in pay:
Looking at figures like this you can see that many executives are financially bound to the success of the company. This is a common (and strategically sound) idea, since the CEO is the one who holds all the risk for the future viability of the company. People will often pine about the disparity between the top dog and blue collar worker but they fail to see the disparity in accountability, responsibility and skill that is involved in attaining such positions. An entry level worker simply does not have the skills and experience required in order to guide a company to financial prosperity.
However I do not support companies who have received government bailouts giving their executives any form of bonus, additional stock options or continued non-equity compensation. If a company is failing so badly that the government needs to save it your performance as a CEO is tantamount to the company being bankrupt, and your pay should reflect this. It would seem that President Obama also supports this viewpoint.
So, the next time the media sends you a story about the CEO or executive board being paid millions whilst the working class suffers please do a bit of digging to see exactly what their getting paid. Once you’ve done that have a look at the shareholders of the company to, as they’re the people most responsible for driving the CEO to ensure the long term survivability of the company.
Really, it’s better to keep your finger pointed squarely at yourself so you act, rather than blaming everyone else for your problems.